The biggest challenge living gluten free is being social!

By | April 22, 2013

The biggest challenge living gluten free is being social!

There are many challenges living gluten free and the biggest challenge living gluten free is being social!  I find there is a great deal of stress when I go out to dinner especially when we are invited into a friends home.

So much of what is prepared, I simply cannot eat and my host seem to get insulted!  I do my best to explain to them I am gluten sensitive, yet for many they just do not understand.  It is not a fad thing for me it is a health thing.  I have been called radical, and last night I was called a health nut!  Many people judge me for my health choices and not in a good way. Yet these same people that judge seem to have all kinds of health problems! It simply does not make any sense to me.

You see I know when out to a restaurant for dinner what I can order to be as safe as possible.   At a restaurant, I can ask specifically for something cooked or prepared the way I want it or that will be best.

In a friends home there is a different energy.  The host is excited about the meal they are going to serve and do get upset or insulted when I say I will not eat certain foods because they are not good for me.  Oh my goodness it stresses me out for sure.

So here is what I have learned over the past year and a half when going out:

  1. When I am invited out I thank them for the invite and explain that I am gluten sensative
  2. I explain that I can not eat any wheat, grains or gluten
  3. I also explain that all the gluten free packaged foodare not in my eating strategy
  4. I do make sure I eat something before I go just in case!
  5. Worst case senario I enjoy the conversaton and company of my friends

I am still learning how to live gluten free and definitely do not eat foods that are a problem just because.  The consequence of that action is not fun and not worth it to me.

Last night I did go out to my cousin’s house for dinner and he was very gracious.  He has absolutely no understanding of health, healthy food and yet he really did go out of his way to be sure that I would enjoy the evening as well as the food he prepared.  For that I am very grateful!

” Never too old, never too bad, never too late, never too sick to start from scratch once again.” -Bikram Choudhury.

What is your plan when you go out to a restaurant or when going into someone’s home?  It would be great to hear from you in the comments below.

Let today be your day!  Talk soon,

Ps here is an interesting article on Cross Contanimation- Simply Click the picture link to go directly to the article ( affiliate)

12 thoughts on “The biggest challenge living gluten free is being social!

  1. Sara

    As a nutritionist I feel your pain – not only with myself but also with clients who are adapting to a gluten-free or grain-free diet. They get so overwhelmed in the beginning but, as you know, it gets easier. The one suggestion I make to them – and use myself – I always offer to BRING something. Then they don’t feel so put out – if one dish has gluten or grains then perhaps you can offer an alternative – or bring dessert. Otherwise, thankfully, the gluten-free diet is being adapted now all over the world. When I first cut it out it was pretty “radical” and really no one understood. Thankfully now people are slowly becoming educated.
    P.S. The reason I love bringing dessert? It usually knocks their socks off that they can eat something so yummy and have it be grain-free. Try it!! 🙂

    1. Wendy Bottrell Post author

      Hi Sara, great ideas and many times I do suggest to bring something. I love your idea of bringing dessert and will suggest that next time. Thanks for connecting, Wendy

  2. Sheree

    So glad I found you! I found out 5 months ago I’m gluten sensitive (along with dairy allergies and lots of other sensitivities…ugh.) One thing that has been helpful about eating out is looking online at the restaurant website to see if they have a menu posted, then looking for gluten free options. This has been so helpful because even if they don’t have a specific gluten free menu, they often post an excel sheet or something with gluten “checked” options I can study then order quickly when I arrive. I look forward to visiting your blog again!

    1. Wendy Bottrell Post author

      Great idea to look online. Thanks for sharing. Wendy

  3. Debbie

    I understand what you are going through. When my 2nd oldest son was living at home we could not have any sugar in his food. We cooked with honey and maple syrup. People kept telling me that they only had a little bit of sugar in what ever. I hated going places. When he got a little older her new what he could eat and not eat, so some days he would come home starving. AT that point, we kept food in the car so he would always have something to eat.

    1. Wendy Bottrell Post author

      Good idea to have food in the car! Thanks for sharing. Best Regards, Wendy

  4. Wendy Bottrell Post author

    You are so right Sue! Telling the host is key. Thanks for sharing that great point. Best Regards, Wendy

  5. Joy Healey

    Hi Wendy

    Such a shame that people find it so difficult, but I think it’s often fear of the unknown.

    Several years ago when my other half was vegetarian people even found that difficult, so I would always take something for him to eat. I think they felt he was “missing out” on the meal they had prepared.

    As time went on they actually enjoyed finding new veggie recipes. I love Sara’s tip about taking dessert to amaze them with yummyness!


    1. Wendy Bottrell Post author

      Hi Joy, thanks for connecting. Yes I really like the dessert idea as well. Wendy

  6. Debra Moser

    Hi Wendy,I definitely can relate to this! As a celiac this is genetic and not by choice. With family I have educated them but they still don’t get it. When I visit I make sure I have a GF light meal before I go out. I also carry GF energy bar,fruit,homemade sandwich in my purse just in case. I have learned since my diagnosis that plan, plan, plan is the key! I also don’t take things personally if there is judgement. That’s their problem not mine. If they are rude I just don’t go. Big family events like Christmas, Thanksgiving I host and cook totally GF. No one can tell the difference. My sister-in-law bless her heart has hosted and cooked a totally GF turkey dinner as well! With success! She calls me ahead of time and I bring the necessary missing spices, gf flour for gravy(I have gravy duty)LOL Excellent article and appreciate you covering this topic! Very important to educate people about living GF.

    1. Wendy Bottrell Post author

      Hi Debra, Thank you for sharing how you have met with the challenges of living with CD! Sounds like you have created a very strong support system. Inspiring. 🙂


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